I hear it all the time… “I married my best friend.” Did you really? LOL. When I asked on my Instagram stories, it looks like it was a pretty close split… 47% said you say you married your best friend. 53% said no you don’t say that.
Niña is my best friend, and I’m her best friend. So if you asked us… We did not marry our best friend. We married our husband. Blaine (my husband) and Nick (Niña’s husband) on the other hand say that we are their best friend, but they know that they can’t compete with a twin.
This doesn’t mean our husbands are any less important. There’s lots of love, a deep friendship, many laughs, and commitment in our marriage. Blaine knows me as well as Niña does. I love the crap out of him! He makes living life freaking awesome, and I’m so lucky he chose me as his wife! I don’t want this post to seem like he is not “good enough” to have the best friend title. It’s just that a best friend to me is what Niña and I have.
Let me give you a scenario from this week that just confirms my thoughts though… Niña and I got in an argument and didn’t talk to each other for 4 days. While we weren’t talking, there were things I was trying to talk to Blaine about and it just wasn’t the same. I tried to talk to him about the Real Housewives of Orange County episode that I just watched. Umm, I didn’t get much of a response from him…LOL. I also tried to talk to him about other things I would talk to Niña about. You know how females are… we like to elaborate, talk details, ask a gazillion questions. I was trying to tell Blaine a story, and it ended up being a short convo…LOL. He didn’t ask very many questions, so I couldn’t elaborate on anything. Dang it!
Niña finally called me and the first thing that came out of her mouth was “did you miss me?” Me: “I’m pretty sure you missed me more since you’re the one who caved and called me.” We were both over it in a split second like nothing even happened! After that we probably talked for 1.5 hours talking about all the things that we didn’t get to talk about! There are things you tell your husband, and there are things you look forward to talking to you best friend with.
You tell everything to your best friend. If he’s your best friend, why do you hide stuff from your husband? Fess up you Amazon and Target fanatics! LOL! …or did you tell him “I’m just leaving” when you in fact haven’t left yet. I’m totally guilty of this!
Also, with your best friend you can take breaks. You can go days without talking to each other. You can take time away from talking or seeing each other especially if they move out of town, out of state, etc, but when you pick up the phone or see them it’s like time never passed. My husband is freaking stuck with me. I never go a day without talking and kissing him (unless of course I’m traveling which then I give him a kissy face while FaceTiming). He is my life partner. He is present in every part of my life. We go through all the daily ups and downs together.
Also, I need someone else to vent to.. especially if I’m venting about my husband. I hate to even say that, but there are times when Blaine and I drive each other crazy or we get mad at each other. I don’t vent to anyone else except Niña. Niña either then tells me “I’d be mad too” or “you need to let that sh*t go.”
The obvious reason also is that I don’t sleep with my best friend. I sleep with my husband. We all know friends with benefits do not work. Someone always gets hurt. 😉
I’ll end with this:
For those that say “I married my best friend.” I absolutely love how you have both in a person!
For those that say “I married my husband” or “I married my wife,” your marriage is just as strong.
xx
